The two of you dancing together for the first time as a married couple – what kind of an image do you have of that moment?
The choices couples make nowadays are more and more varied. Some people have the approach of dancing a Waltz and then asking the parents to join them on the floor. But there are plenty of first dance Cha cha’s, Foxtrots and combinations of different dances being done – even a first tap dance. And not everybody asks the parents to join them, instead they get all the guests on the floor.
Choreography or lead & follow
I would recommend considering what the guests would enjoy as well as what the two of you really want and are comfortable doing. A ‘three and a half minute’ set choreography might be the right option if you are good at remembering routines and have the time to put the practice in. On the other hand a more loosely structured dance is easier and takes the extra pressure away.
Song options
Discuss the different options with your dance teacher and get her/his feedback on songs before making your mind up. The teacher will be able to tell you about the tempos and what dance style or styles will fit the songs on your shortlist and how easy it will be to learn to dance to each song. Consider the lyrics of the songs as well – plenty of beautiful songs are about break-up instead of lifelong commitment.
Band vs recording
If you have a band playing in your wedding, check if they can learn the same arrangement as you will be practicing to. If possible, have a run through with the band on the day to check the tempo, intros and endings, and to give yourself a chance to dance through once more before the actual thing.
When the music is pre-recorded, make sure that the volume levels are high enough so that you can hear the first notes.
The announcement
Making sure that the MC gets the guests up and around the dance floor does create a lovely atmosphere for the wedding dance and you’ll have great pictures where your friends and family are gathered in the background.
And…
Learning to dance for your wedding is something you two will have to work on together, as a team. Some areas are your strong points, others will be your partner’s – respect and patience and a lot of practice go a long way. You will want the first dance and all the preparation to be a happy memory!
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